What is yet to come is better than what has passed.


"You just keep pushing, you just keep pushing. I've made every  mistake that could be made. But I just kept pushing" - Rene Descartes

Consider the above quote of the famous French philosopher Rene Descartes. How often you think that you've had a messed up life. If this and this wouldn't have happened then my life would have been great. How many times you've indulged in regretting on your mistakes. How often you complaint about unpleasant situations that if such and such haven't happened to me then I will be having a fun life.

But do you ever consider what are the negative consequences of such arguments. It makes you feel upset, depressed and it creates ample amount of anxiety that is enough to trigger you more negatively and make your life worse. Crying over the split milk is of no use. Whatever has happened has already happened and cannot be changed by any amount of worrying.

Instead of dying over the past learn to live for the present that can affect the future. No matter how dreadful moments you've gone through in Life, it all passed. No matter how joyous moments you've lived in your life, it all passed. What is Left is only present so focus on it. Because whatever is yet to come is best, so do you like to be unprepared for that best moment? Would you like to miss your bright future because of your gloomy past? Obviously not, so forsake the past and try focusing on present. This is how you'll grow with integrity. Recognise the pattern, behaviour or habit for which you've suffered a lot in Life, then change it. Do not worry too much about your mistakes but recognise the 'cause' for those mistakes and then in present try to remove those cause or replace them with a better cause that ultimately leads to a positive result.

For example, you've smoked some cigarettes in the past that now making you feel guilty, so do not dwell too much on the fact of your smoking but try to figure out why you've smoked. Try to trace the 'cause'. of your smoking. Suppose You find that you've smoked because you were depressed at that moment and now whenever you  are stressed and in depression you smoke and now it comes in your habit. So now what you have figured out is that it's your stress that causes you to smoke. So next step is try to find alternative positive ways to release stress. No doubt stress is a part of our Life, and a small stress is good to motivate us to do work. But people usually have huge amount of stress that must be broken down. Combating stress in an unhealthy manner causes it to increase further in uglier ways. Anyway, there are plenty of healthy ways to release stress that you can easily find on internet. I'm only naming some of them.

You might heard a famous line " If you want to beat your enemy, learn about your enemy"  This also applies here and I personally applied this technique to destroy my stress and this is to seek knowledge about your enemy i.e. 'understanding stress' . In the words of a great psychologist William James - 'The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to chose one thought over the other'

Other ways to release stress are.
Exercise
Running
Smiling
Playing
Writing
Painting
DIY projects
Anything that gives you a feeling of achievement such as charity, helping someone out of generosity, etc.

As soon you learn to replace your negative trigger to positive trigger, you'll see a changement in your life. And then present start appearing so amazing that you won't find any need to worry over past. Next articles will cover particular stress Creator in detail such as smoking,  bullying, failing in exam, fear of rejection, etc.

Summary :- Do not live in past but in present. Things that make us worry about past. How to give up those worries. This is only a nutshell, if you want a detailed article on stress and it's permanent solution then let me know by comments and you can also ask your queries on Instagram @healing_oldsoul


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Comments

  1. yourstruly_Zprize16 January 2020 at 04:44

    I have so many questions.... And I'm unable to write them down coz my mind is so clouded by them.

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    1. Zeeshan9 May 2020 at 10:00

      Then wait for the rain to lighten your cloud

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